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It’s a beautiful day on the Mediterranean this morning. No clouds worth mentioning except those on the horizon. A glistening silver stage awaits the next act in your continuous story….what will it be today?
No coffee and it’s day 22. Not bad! When you follow through on a resolution or decision then you know you can change many things about your life. I have passed the place of whinning and complaining and have arrived in a place of possibility.
Imagine you are the editor in chief in your own audio-visual edit suite. There you have your complete archive of your memories including your dreams. As you go through the memories that make up your lives story you count all the cups of coffee you drank over your life time, all the alcohol, sweet food, food high in preservatives and colorings, mind altering substances, fried food, contaminated food, food that makes you ill, organic food, whole-food etc.
What if you edited all the clips in your life where you felt loved, secure emotionally, spiritually and financially, afraid, vengeful, angry, content, sad, blissfully happy, excited, creative, imaginative, interested, curious, selfish, controlling, humorous, healthy, fit, ill, unhealthy etc.?
What would you learn, understand, think about yourself from these clips about yourself?
What of these memories would you like to re-shoot (imagine it) and edit if any?
When you play back these imaginative sequences how do they make you feel?
Could you make them a reality, or do you need to some research and rewrites before you shoot and edit the way you would like yourself to behave, eat and drink, think etc?
Back to this weeks topic on ‘fear’.
If you were to watch all the instances of fear in your life; when as a child and young adult you were afraid of the dark and cookie monster, the times you overcame your fears, fears that terrorized you as an adult and perhaps still do, and how fear excited you to do things you wouldn’t ordinary do. As you watch each sequence take notes of how you feel and think watching them. What would your possible self advice you to do about your fears in the various sequences of your story. Now imagine that you put into action the advice that your possible self gave you on your various fear factors. You are back in the edit suite and you compile all the past, present and imaginative (the possible self sequences) sequences as a linear story. You watch the story. How does it make you feel?
It’s like watching your child learning to swim; they get very brave and go the length of the pool, down the deep end, splattering and kicking determined to get to the other side. They arrive out of breath and full of excitement. They did it. That takes, determination, it’s bravery, it’s tenacity, it’s courage, it’s the stuff of life. And you stand on the end they arrive at and applause the mighty trust they have in themselves. Their self-esteem and self-worth soars and the smile on both your faces tells the story.
Each time we achieve something we set out to do, it has that wonderful feeling of being soooooo alive. We are our own heroine and hero. And there are so many heroes and heroines out there. Google and find their stories in sport, music, business, literature, innovation, education etc. Take courage from their stamina and drive. Read as many stories as you can and see what effect it has on your possible self. All ‘your selves are your team. Getting them to work together and focused in the same direction is part of your task. The love-self cannot be sitting on the fence thinking about a lost love. The dreaming-self cannot be away in another land. The remembering-self cannot always be busy archiving and cleaning your library. Gather them all and have a meeting with them and do what athletes do; have all the selves focused in the same direction helping you to achieve a dream, a goal, a decision, a task you set for yourself. The energy you exude when you are in this pace is infectious and other people will want to do the same.
Wear your wonderful smile as you go through your day, thinking of the possible self and what you want to achieve.
“It’s lack of faith that makes people afraid of meeting challenges, and I believed in myself.” Muhammad Ali
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us.” Marianne Williamson
“Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.” Marie Curie
“I’ve not ceased being fearful, I’ve gone ahead despite the pounding in my heart that says: turn back, turn back, you’ll die if you go too far.” Erica Jong
“I do not believe in failure. It is not failure if you enjoyed the process.” Oprah Winfrey
“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow.” Helen Keller
“Not everything that is faced can be changed but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” Lucille Ball
“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. you must do the thing which you cannot do.” Eleanor Roosevelt
“You have no control over what the other guy does. You only have control over what you do.” A J Kitt
“The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.” Vince Lombardi
“You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them.” Michael Jordan
“My motto was always to keep swinging. Whether I was in a slump or feeling badly or having trouble off the field, the only thing to do was keep swinging.” Hank Aaron
“The way a team plays as a whole determines its success. You may have the greatest bunch of individual stars in the world, but if they don’t play together, the club wont be worth a dime. “ Babe Ruth
“When someone tells me the is only one way to do things, it always lights a fire under my butt. My instant reaction is, I’m gonna prove you wrong.” Picabo Street