Vulnerability & You


Another brand new day and the stage is set once more for another meandering blog.  I have no idea when I sit to write where it’s going to take me.  But, I do it anyhow and would strongly recommend you starting a blog as it’s fun, you discovered a lot about yourself, and it allows me to explore the challenges clients have during the Possible Self programs.  It’s also a great discipline, so thank you readers for your support,  thoughts and comments thus far.  My daughter tells me to make them shorter, I try but the stream of consciousness takes over, maybe over time that I will manage to do so…………..

No coffee for the 36th day.  Lemons are on my menu these past few weeks as they are growing in the garden where I live.  To pick a lemon, savor its smell and texture is a pure delight.  The smell is awesome and it fades very quickly once it sits for an hour or so.  So I pick and use them immediately to make breakfast:  Grate an apple or pear in a bowl, grate the zest and squeeze the juice of one freshly picked lemon and add to the apple, pour on some organic apple juice, add your muesli mix maybe five desert spoons, mix through add more juice to your taste, of ‘sloppiness’ or not, toast a tablespoon of pumpkin, sesame, sunflower, chi and flax seeds for taste, mix with another desert spoon of the same raw seeds and sprinkle on top…..divine…..especially if you sit in the sun and wash the sun’s performance on the bay before you start your day.  Enjoy!

Imagine you are about to come into frame bottom left of todays  photograph in your boat and you are going to head around the mainland and exit top left to begin a years voyage of the Mediterranean.  All your worldly goods are on your boat.  You have given away everything you accumulated over your lifetime, sold your house, car etc.  You have a comfortable sum of money available to you once you have paid off any debts etc. to explore being totally on your own.  It’s your gift to yourself.  You have music, movies, books, drawing and painting material, writing and photography equipment, including a dark room, a musical instrument of your choice, the internet once a week on a Friday for two hours, a radio, no other access to your computer except to write.  The boat can be whatever kind of boat you desire, so long as you have learnt to handle it with ease.  It has all the comfort and gear you need to enjoy the sea and to exercise.  Going on to mainland is your choice for a day or days at a time but you return every evening to your boat.  You keep a diary and take photos everyday.  Your diary  will be published and distributed worldwide.  The income from the book gives you enough cash to choose another year doing something else or maybe the same but in a different place.

How vulnerable would you feel thinking about this possibility?  Some people are water people others have no interest at all and prefer solid ground under them.  Others would prefer; the desert for a year, trekking in the Andes, horse riding the slopes of Russia, back packing in Indonesia, living on a remote island in the Pacific, a cottage in the west of Ireland, a vineyard in California or Italy, a city on the opposite side of the world, walking in Canadian forests, driving a motor bike across China, Russia or the USA, filming art, and or nature worldwide and some have no inclination to move at all.

No matter where we are or what we are doing we live inside one body, mind and spirit.  It’s our personal terrain made up off many scapes, one day it’s a desert, a sea, a mountain, a forest, a busy city, a shoe box of darkness where we are our own prisoner, a well of magical dreams and creative ideas, and other times it’s a pasture in the sunshine.  The terrains grapple with financial, health, family, work, relationship, friendship, intellectual, creative challenges that can be positive and or negative energies that flow through our being.

How do you handle, cope, manage, live with and express your vulnerabilities?  You take them with you wherever you go!

Imagine you are standing in front of 1,0000 people and they have all come to hear you talk about your published diary of your voyage on the Mediterranean.  Your story warts and all is out there in the public domain.  You hadn’t realized that so many people liked and were interested in your diary.  You are very nervous and had not anticipated this moment.  You are struggling to find the voice from your diary but it just won’t come.  As the crowd applauds your entrance on the stage you have no option put to put up an image on the screen to distract your nervousness.  It’s a photo series of a treacherous, frightening night where there was a storm and you felt you would not manage to secure the boat, there was no time to call for help, it was you against the elements.  The crowd was silent.  Your recorded voice was playing over the photographs.  You listened and when it came to an end the crowd were even more silent.  The applauding began again as the crowd stood up cheering you on.  When they sat down you looked around at them and said “You are the sea, you are supportive of me but I am still drowning, I am so scared being here sharing my story with you, cause the gremlins in my head are saying ‘who do you think you are, you are nothing special‘.  The crowd got to their feet and together they chanted “ you are you and you were scared, but you did it anyway and we are going to do the same, so tell us all about it.”

We have listened to stories in fables and tales since we were children.  We read and watch stories on tv and in the cinema.  We are works in progress along with the rest of the human race, working it out as we go along.  We didn’t get an instruction manual on the way in.  We walk a windy path branching off along the way according to hunches, sign-posts and direction we consciously or unconsciously followed.  We have many vulnerable moments that have taught us so much about ourselves.  Whether you go on stage to tell your story in public or not,  you have your own stage and by telling it to yourself you give you the courage to live your life with greater awareness, even more courage and imagination.

“Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” Steve Jobs

“An artist feels vulnerable to begin with; and yet the only answer is to recklessly discard more armour.” Eric Maisel

“Those who are willing to be vulnerable move among mysteries.”  Theodore Roethke

“Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties.” Erich Fromm

“From a real antagonist one gains boundless courage.” Franz Kafka

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” Nelson Mandela

“Success is not measured by what you accomplish, but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds.” Orison Swett Marden

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” Anais Nin

“It is curious, curious that physical courage should be so common in the world, and moral courage so rare. “Mark Twain

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