Monthly Archives: May 2013

121361109.wG3BZaFu._DSC8470How true is  what Aristotle said: “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.”

The ‘yourself’ he was talking about was the many integrated or not integrated ‘selves’ that we all have?

Do you ever stop to think how people experience ‘you’ on your public stage everyday?

Do you ever stop to think how you experience ‘you’ on your private stage everyday?

How many ‘selves’ do you have in your life story that live your life on your behalf from your birth to now?

What emotion are you demonstrating to-day by your presence, mood, physical and voice expression?  What vibrational energy are you radiating?  Are you conscious of it and how it affects those around you?  Who are you being and are you in harmony with who you believe you are and want to be?

Which self is the one you know best?  Why is that?  When did that self start its performance?  What about the other ‘selves’ that are back stage waiting for their time on the public and private stage?  Do they ever get a chance to perform, take part in your life, or is there a very controlled editorial board in operation? Who are we being in every moment?  How many selves are on stage and who is directing them?  Close your eyes and imagine what is going on in the theater of your own mind right now!

Here is how one man and one poet expressed his selves:

‘We Are Many’

Of the many men whom I am, whom we are,
I cannot settle on a single one.
They are lost to me under the cover of clothing
They have departed for another city.

When everything seems to be set
to show me off as a man of intelligence,
the fool I keep concealed on my person
takes over my talk and occupies my mouth.

On other occasions, I am dozing in the midst
of people of some distinction,
and when I summon my courageous self,
a coward completely unknown to me
swaddles my poor skeleton
in a thousand tiny reservations.

When a stately home bursts into flames,
instead of the fireman I summon,
an arsonist bursts on the scene,
and he is I. There is nothing I can do.
What must I do to distinguish myself?
How can I put myself together?

All the books I read
lionize dazzling hero figures,
brimming with self-assurance.
I die with envy of them;
and, in films where bullets fly on the wind,
I am left in envy of the cowboys,
left admiring even the horses.

But when I call upon my DASHING BEING,
out comes the same OLD LAZY SELF,
and so I never know just WHO I AM,
nor how many I am, nor WHO WE WILL BE BEING.
I would like to be able to touch a bell
and call up my real self, the truly me,
because if I really need my proper self,
I must not allow myself to disappear.

While I am writing, I am far away;
and when I come back, I have already left.
I should like to see if the same thing happens
to other people as it does to me,
to see if as many people are as I am,
and if they seem the same way to themselves.
When this problem has been thoroughly explored,
I am going to school myself so well in things
that, when I try to explain my problems,
I shall speak, not of self, but of geography.
Pablo Neruda

You can get information on the next TPS workshops: email


‘If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.’ Maya Angelou

Things don’t change. You change your way of looking, that’s all.’ Carlos Castaneda

‘You must be the change you wish to see in the world.’  Mahatma Gandhi

‘You don’t get creative by staying in the same place.’ Andy Law

‘It seldom happens that a man changes his life through his habitual reasoning. No matter how fully he may sense the new plans and aims revealed to him by reason, he continues to plod along in old paths until his life becomes frustrating and unbearable—he finally makes the change only when his usual life can no longer be tolerated.’  Leo Tolstoy

Progress is impossible without change; and those who cannot change their minds, cannot change anything.’ George Bernard Shaw

‘Security is mostly superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. To keep our faces toward change and behave like free spirits in the presence of fate is strength undefeatable.’  Helen Keller

the_seasons_by_ollieviawoo-d5bjo4rThe Seasons by Ollieviawoo

On Saturday I gave an hours presentation on The Possible Self, TPS, to an F1 sports group. After the introductions one participant asked what TPS is?  It’s not a Tony Robbins high energy seminar.  It’s not a Wayne Dyer talk.  It’s not a Louise Hay motivational workshop.  It’s not therapy or  counseling.

The Possible Self workshop facilitates you, who ever you might be, to take time to explore, discover and reflect on your life-story to-date and your possibilities going forward, so that you can live it with a renewed sense of purpose and meaning. You leave with your own life-scroll and an outline plan for your next chapter from a one day workshop and a more detailed plan from a three to five-day workshop.

If you are in transition in your life the workshop will work for you; e.g. becoming a parent or your children have left the nest, you starting a new job or business, retiring, setting up a new chapter of travel and intrigue, moving jobs, lost your job, going back to work, going through a bankruptcy, a breakup of a relationship, getting married, a friend or family member has died, know there is more to you than you have experienced to-date, won the lotto or just want to reflect on where you are at in your life so that you can decide on where to direct your resources for your future.

Workshop Your Story

“Look for the opportunities in the difficulties, not the difficulties in the opportunities.”  Victor Fiorelli

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.”  Anaïs Nin

“Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs.” Farrah Gray

“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”  Nelson Mandela


Sometimes we get stuck in the flow of life around us.  Some of us choose to explore, understand and direct our lives in new ways Here are brief samples of what TPS participants had to say after a one-day workshop:

“I felt very light after the workshop as tough I had let go of ‘stuff’ that I don’t need to carry anymore.” B.G.

“As a result of the workshop I have stepped up a gear in being pro-active about where I am putting my energy.” A.C.

” What a wake up call I had during the workshop, I am living in the last third of my life and it’s now or never to make the most of it, there is no other choice.”T.K.

“I was inspired by the workshop, as tough my own light bulb brightened up a couple of notches.”N.W.

“The workshop helped me to validate who I am and that gives me the push to enjoy life more.” S.P.

“I am on track, and I discovered in the workshop that I have more options than I thought I had to achieve the balance I am looking for in my life.” J.C.

“I am still adding to my ‘tree of life’ at home that I worked on in the TPS workshop.  I now see where the habit of procrastination came from, I understand why, so now I can shift a gear or two in achieving what I wanted to achieve, be more relaxed and focused on what matters.” K.L.

“The workshop was so freeing of the things that trip me up, I could see the pattern and why I was like that.” M.N.B.

“The workshop was very refreshing, if you know what I mean, it was like letting air into your life from the inside out and getting to know your life in a very creative and practical way.” L.G.

I found out in the workshop that I have done a lot in my life and that there is a whole lot more I want to do before the fat lady sings, so I am working on a plan.” A.D.

“I got courage and strength from seeing my own life in front of me in the drawing of my ‘tree of life’.  I can be even more courageous now even tough I may lose my house, my attitude has shifted and I can manage to move forward and be proactive in rebuilding my life now. I have been in worse situations.  I am hopeful and calm.” P.O.D.

“I was never really honest about certain things I did in my life that made me feel ashamed, I could see the repeated patterns in my ‘tree of life’.  I was always trying to hide that part of my life from myself and others, what a waste of energy it is, so I have work to do to break that pattern, so I can be more real and happier in myself.” R.T.

‘The workshop was a gift of joy to myself.  I could see the good and bad in my life from my ‘tree of life’ to now and because the possible self is waiting in every moment as Áinne said, I can choose to have more of the good stuff.  We can be so caught up in ourselves worrying about this and that, that we can miss out on what is right under our noses.” D.S.D.

“I discovered in the workshop that I don’t want to live life with the brake on and do just what is expected of me.  I am denying a whole part of me that I want to experience and I am going after it, life is too short for ‘maybes’ and ‘what if’s’.  O.S.

‘I was amazed that I could see my life in front of me in a visual map in one day, it certainly made me think of what I am grateful for and what I can do to use my time in more productive and satisfying ways, some patterns of behaviour will change over the next few month.” C.M.

‘I was anxious before the workshop, but within 30 minutes I was engrossed in the TPS process and the day flew by and I felt better than I had been in years about my life.  I could see there was always hope and resolve to all the tribulations at different stages in my life and I managed to have integrity in all I did.  That gave me hope and courage to mange what is happening right now.” G.T.C.

ImageThe Possible Self ‘Me Programme’ Workshop

The Possible Self is an international company designing and facilitating innovative programmes and workshops for individuals to explore, understand, celebrate, plan, self coach, self direct and manage their lives through its many transitions and stages.

Imagine creating a life-size visual map of your life from your first breath to now;  including the people, events, emotions, dreams and imaginings of various stages.  Then deciding which areas of your life needs attention, love, support, management, change, celebration etc.  Now stop imagining it and think about actively doing it next Saturday in your first one day workshop.

Nobody knows you like you do.   Once you are honest and open about really knowing who you are and how you are living your life you can direct and live it with more awareness, purpose and joy.  You stop hiding from yourself and get to enjoy you more.  Imagine becoming your own life coach for the rest of your life!  How would that make you feel?


The next one day ‘Me Programme’ workshop is scheduled for:

Nice, France, June 8th 2013, 9am-6pm.

 Workshop Location:

La Maison du Séminaire,

29 Bl Franck Pilatte, 06300 Nice, France.  (See the pink building on the left of the photograph above).

15% special discount for double bookings.

Maximum of twelve participants.

To secure your place for the workshop email to receive a registration form

For further information on The Possible Self log onto:


At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are, and you know

what you want”  Lao Tzu

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