Monthly Archives: June 2013


It is said that the following are the Dalai Lama’s Rules for Living Your Life.  Whether they are, or not, they certainly get us to consider how we live our life:

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

3. Follow the three Rs:

a. Respect for self

b. Respect for others

c. Responsibility for all your actions

4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

8. Spend some time alone every day.

9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.

10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

11. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.

12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.

13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.

14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.

15. Be gentle with the earth.

16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.

17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

“As human beings we all want to be happy and free from misery… we have learned that the key to happiness is inner peace. The greatest obstacles to inner peace are disturbing emotions such as anger, attachment, fear and suspicion, while love and compassion and a sense of universal responsibility are the sources of peace and happiness.” Dalai Lama


Living life through another culture is an intriguing way of coming to know yourself and the world around you.  Whether it is in Africa, France, Asia, Ireland or Timbuktu. Your life as it is and its possibilities go with you wherever you go. There is no escaping the self or the possible self.  Becoming aware in this way about how you consciously live your life and how the rest of us experience you is a way to transformation should you choose it.

If you have developed any sense of self-awareness about your life to now you will realize who you are being in the new situations.  Very quickly your thought processes, identity, attitudes, behaviours, habits, reactions and actions are challenged.  You awaken from your own cultural comfort zone and perceptions of the world around you as you engage with your new community and culture.  You begin to know who you are being, what, who and where is important to you and how you spend your energy and resources everyday to direct your life in a meaningful and joyous way between birth and death.

The entrenched prejudices, judgements, fears, limitations, attitudes, moods, controlling behaviours, self-obsessions, limiting beliefs all come to the surface when you are challenged in a new environment; in friendships and relationships where ever you go or are.   You are challenged to define who you are and what it is to be a person of honour with integrity, respect, humility, compassion, honesty, humour, imagination, creativity, communication and a loving nature in all that you are and do.  These characteristics are the most difficult for people to uphold as they live this human adventure between birth and death with all its good and bad experiences. We hold each other accountable personally and publicly to at least strive to be that person of character.  To feel and continue to live life with enthusiasm, curiosity, wonderment and possibility for you and those you share the planet with is an amazing sense of humanity when it is activated and lived each day.

It’s interesting in The Possible Self, TPS, workshops how people reflect on their life-story and begin to see how unconsciously they are living their lives.  The idea they had in their mind about their life was very different to the story they discover about themselves.  They see how their present mind-scape limits them at times by applying limitations to their thinking, actions, behaviours, habits and patterns.  It can be their own personal culture, their family culture, and or their country’s culture that have shaped these limitation.  And the total opposite is also discovered in that their culture/s are un-limiting, and the scope for their life is even more than they thought it was.

When they consciously become aware that change is what is always happening in every moment of their life they realize what potential and possibility they have to enjoy and grow their lives in various ways particular to their own situation in life.  They realize the wealth of experiences they have had good and bad that prepares them to exercise any changes they chose to make.  They accept their story of life to now and spend time exploring various options they have to live their life from now on.  They visualize the various options and live through them in an imaginative exercise applying the resources and energy they have to make them happen.  Eventually it comes down to choosing.  We have but one life-time.  We know what we have achieved and experienced to-date.   We know the numbers of years we have left and the various chapters we can live through.  We get to know what we can do with the resources, energy, health, family, friendships and relationships that matter in our lives.

TPS clients fine tune their intentions and plan a way forward that gives them the most joy for the rest of their lives.  They get to know for the first time that no matter what happens in the flow of their life that it is their attitude that brings enjoyment in every moment. An attitude based on the characteristics we mentioned in the previous paragraph.  An attitude with some principles of behaviour that gives meaning to their life.  When they live with this attitude of character they attract the same characters to them no matter where they travel, live, go or are.  It’s an attitude that gets us to step-up and not live half-lives in our very privileged first world.  You may change nothing in your life but your attitude and it seems like that you have gone through a transformation; from being a caterpillar to butterfly.  Seeing the world on the ground and then the air.  You feel lighter, controlling nothing but managing what is important to give purpose and joy to your life.  What you radiate to the world around you is a positive energy that can only do good in all that you do.  And of course you wear one of those amazingly infectious ‘real smiles’

Bookings for private TPS workshops :

“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.”   Maya Angelou

“Do one thing every day that scares you.”   Eleanor Roosevelt

“It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.” Lou Holtz

“What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.”
Jane Goodall

“Hold fast to dreams,
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird,
That cannot fly.”
Langston Hughes

“It is good to love many things, for therein lies the true strength, and whosoever loves much performs much, and can accomplish much, and what is done in love is well done.”  Vincent van Gogh

“Ignore those that make you fearful and sad, that degrade you back towards disease and death.” Rumi

“Always remember, your focus determines your reality.”  George Lucas

“Sometimes you wake up. Sometimes the fall kills you. And sometimes, when you fall, you fly.”
Neil Gaiman, The Sandman, Vol. 6: Fables and Reflections

©Copyright Áinne Burke 2013



Our life-time in this physical body between our first and last breath is where we stage our life.  The cast of players we join begin with the family we are born into; their cultural, spiritual, creative, social, political, imaginative and financial story inherited from their parents.  We sometimes adapt, change, lose and or expand aspects of that story with time, if we have the personal and or the public freedom to do so.  A continuous inherited clan story of events, people, places and emotions that give us a sense of belonging and place as a child and young adult with its good and bad experiences. Your early life-story frames ‘your perception’ of the world that is ever-changing.

Our stage expands as we individuals expand our horizons. We develop new perceptions and understandings of ourselves and the world around us as we experience new events, people, places and emotions.  We live through all kinds of emotional, political, social, spiritual, creative, imaginative and economic changing weather patterns, surviving at various times and seldom do we thrive in balance in all areas of our life.

Change is constant, in us, around us, in our community, country, continent, planet and universe. No day is the same.  We are not always aware of the changes that are taking place as we try to anchor ourselves long enough to know what is happening and how we might react, adapt or adopt to the change.  Our concept of time drives the chapters of our lives as we age from cradle to grave.  We are not always conscious of the transition from the past minute to the present one and to the one that is to come. Yet the chapters of our lives are only obvious from the chronology of our life-story to-date.

Each day we have the option to perform differently on our world stage, if we are ‘aware’ of who we are being.  Of course this applies to we the very privileged people who write and read blogs who are physically secure in our world; without war, poverty, strive or illness.  We can choose to not waste this life in serving just our own needs and desires. Standing in the other wo/mans shoes and seeing life from her/his perspective motivates us to being in the service of others who are still struggling for food, water, justice, peace, wellness and joy.  Being aware of how we live and share planet earth’s abundance and our effect on its health is also a reflection on how each one of us perform on our own world stage and as a global family on the world stage. Everyone and everything matters. It’s all connected and until we each  learn to become consciously aware and responsible for our own performance each day knowing our heritage, gene pool and  experiences, life will not really change for all our global citizens.

Adapting to change and transitions is an ever-ending process in our private and public life-story, both affecting the other with various levels of great and not so great vibrations and impacts.  Managing our lives through constant change is a balancing act that some are great at, some are mediocre at and some thrive on.  We are a constant work in progress all of our life and there are times we want to reflect and evaluate on how we are doing and how we would like to direct our energies and resources tomorrow and for our future.

We are writing and living our life-story to the day we die. Some of it we write, some of it others write and some of it life writes as we react to life situations as they happen.  Some of us are consciously aware of who was writing our story as it happened, is happening, and some are not.  If you were to read your life-script to-date, whatever age you are, wherever you are and whatever you are doing right now, could you understand and accept the character you are playing on your world stage?

What emotions are you feeling? What is your purpose in life today? Is that purpose serving you or others, or both?  Is it good for you and them?  How empathic, compassionate and loving are you towards yourself and others?  What suggestions would you have for your character based on your experiences to-date? How would you hold yourself in your arms and what words of love would you whisper in your ear to give you the confidence to continue to evolve and blossom in your life? Are you wearing masks to take you through your day?  If so, why?  When are you being your ‘known self’, your ‘authentic self’, your ‘evolved self’? How many selves have you? Which serve you best in your life? Are you confident in how and what you do in your life? Are you mean, economic or generous in how you are spending your precious years?  How many have you left?  How do you want to spend them?

We are what we say, touch, hear, smell, taste and know. We express it each day through our behaviours, patterns, habits and actions in all that we do. How we each perform each day on the world stage effects and affects the energy of the planet and the people who live on it.  We are all connected in all that we say and do producing currents of positive and negative energy fields  between us.  How we each perform each day matters.  How we react to and manage change matters.

If you are going through a transition in your life; finishing college, getting your first job, becoming a parent, children are leaving home,  getting married, getting divorced, the beginning of a new relationship, the end of a relationship, moving in with your lover/partner, separating from your lover/partner, reacquainting yourself with your partner when the children have left the nest, packing up your home and moving elsewhere, bankruptcy, starting a new company, getting a new job, losing a job, retiring, going back to work, recovering from a serious illness, in the best physical shape you have ever been in your life, starting work for an exhibition, after an exhibition, lost a loved one, selling your assets and starting again, re-inventing yourself or don’t know what to think or do next; maybe its time to pause.

The Possible Self company facilitates you to go through that creative process of life evaluation and  reflection in a private retreat anywhere in the world.   Bookings:

“You’ve gotta dance like there’s nobody watching,                                                                                Love like you’ll never be hurt,                                                                                                                  Sing like there’s nobody listening,                                                                                                            And live like it’s heaven on earth.”
William W. Purkey.

‘You’re on stage and cued for living;  lights, camera and action……..”  Áinne Burke

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